Social Media

The Funny Thing Is

I have been thinking a lot lately about social media. I think everyone has. The overuse of it, the issues it creates, the amount of time it takes from our lives. I’m so ambivalent about it. I started using it when it first began. I literally waited for my college to be allowed to gain access to Facebook with my school email. At the beginning it was just a really great way to keep in touch with people. I think that is at it’s core what it was meant for. I was also an early adopter of Pinterest. I remember being on a waiting list to start using it. Again, at the beginning it was just a great place to gain inspiration. Shortly after I started using Instagram. At the beginning I used it to connect with fellow dog owners and post pictures of my dog and life. I started using it before my wedding in 2012. I used Twitter and Snapchat but not religiously, in fact I’m no longer on those. I also quit Facebook a few years ago and I have not regretted it in the slightest. Since social media’s inception and since I started using it, it has changed drastically, as you know. It used to be ways to keep in touch, gain inspiration, and post pictures. Now it as become a giant game of keeping up with the Joneses or Kardashians, if you are millennial. The funny thing is, I’m considered a millennial. Albeit, I’m on the older side of that title, I am one nonetheless.

The only apps I’m really still using are Instagram and Pinterest, and although I tell myself at least I’m not using Facebook, Twitter and Snapchat, I still feel like I could cut some more out. I have started to unfollow many Instagram “influencers” as they are just constantly trying to sell you shit you don’t need. I’ve also been trying to follow more positive accounts and it’s the reason I started my Journey to Find Joy feed and blog. There needs to be more positivity out there and I’m willing to find it, create it and share it. Since I’ve had kids, it has really started to become apparent to me that if I am going to live with social media and my kids will use it one day, I want to make sure it’s a safe place. And I want to be sure I’m not overusing it and have a healthy relationship with it so that some day when my kids have it they don’t let it affect them in the way it is affecting many young children right now. I will hold out giving my kids smartphones as long as I possibly can. There really is no reason a child under the age of 13 needs a phone. I would almost argue not before 16 but I know that is unrealistic in today’s world, since many school programs and after school programs nearly require kids to have them. The parenting landscape is changing because of social media and they only way we are going to fight it is to resist the urge to introduce it too early. I’ve seen kids as young as 6 and 7 with their own cell phones and that shit just has to stop. There is absolutely no reason your kids need a cell phone. Literally NO REASON. And if you have a reason, my guess is it’s more than likely an excuse or it’s your reason, not theirs. Many people survived before cell phones, believe it or not. The funny thing is, I’d be happier without one.

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Daily Dose of…

I’ve shared fears and dreams so far but one thing I want to share is how I’m doing small things every day on my journey to find joy. I really do believe that one small step in the right direction makes all the difference. Improving small things each day adds up to big results. Take for example a weight loss journey. One of my favorite quotes that I like to live by is “One burger won’t make you fat, just like one salad won’t make you thin.” It is repetition and consistency that will provide results good or bad. And this goes for all aspects of your life. The habits and routine you establish make a huge difference in the every day. One meditation doesn’t make you spiritual, one glass of water doesn’t make you healthier, one dream doesn’t mean it will come true. You must do things every day to work towards the changes you want to see in your life. Here are a couple things I’ve been trying to incorporate into my daily routine, and so far it has been making a huge difference in my mood and my purpose. I need my daily dose of…

  1. Morning meditation. Most mornings are hectic trying to get the kiddos out the door, so when I get to work and park, I do {at least} a 5 minute meditation in my car. It literally takes 5 minutes but it has been greatly improving my mood in the morning. Going from the madness of getting 2 kids off to daycare and the madness of work, it provides just a small window of calm and helps me recenter myself and feel in control. I highly suggest doing this if you can spare 5 minutes.
  2. Workouts. Obviously a huge mood booster, working out in some capacity every day just makes the biggest difference, not only for your body but your mind! At this season of my life with 2 small kiddos, the best time I can find to do this is after they are both in bed around 7:30 but it really puts a nice little nightcap to my day. It lets me focus on myself and my body and it really makes me feel so good to get it in before I go to sleep.
  3. Daily walks in nature. Getting outside is so important for my mental health. This is a hard task when the weather isn’t nice but if I have to, I’ll walk inside on the treadmill at work. I usually do my daily walk at work on my lunch break and then eat lunch at my desk.
  4. Drink more water and tea. Honestly, this one is still a work in progress but I’m trying to drink more water and tea during the day. So good for your body.
  5. Planning. This is a hard one for most people, but I’m a planner by nature so this one comes fairly easy to me but I still have to work on it. I plan a lot of things at work and for my family but one thing I don’t do is plan for myself. I need to focus on planning what my future looks like. To accomplish my dreams, to eat healthy, to find time to meditate and workout. Writing things down is the easiest way to do this. I love to make lists and schedules. However it looks for you, I do suggest writing things down. For some reason it makes all the difference!

Everyone is different and maybe your list looks a little different, and that’s okay! What does your daily dose look like? Please share in the comments below! I’d love to know what works for you!

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Fear of What

Part of me is afraid of the unknown. And the other part of me is so excited by it.

By nature, I have always been shy and introverted. I have really tried to avoid things. Failure, success, conflict, etc…But as I get older (I just celebrated my 36th birthday), I’m starting to ask myself why am I afraid? Fear of what and why? Who really cares what people think about anything I do or say or feel or act. I think that’s why they say with age comes wisdom. You realize your fears are only things you’ve created in your own head for no real reason.

Jim Carrey says it best “…Now, fear is going to be a player in your life but you get to decide how much. You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts, worrying about the pathway to the future. All there will ever be is what’s happening here and the decisions we make in this moment which are based in either love or fear. So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect so we never dare to ask the universe for it. I’m saying I’m the proof that you can ask the universe for it. Please. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”

I think I’ve let my fear be bigger than my love. I’ve settled for things, especially in my working life. There is no time like the present and the decisions I make today will lead to the future I desire and dream of. I’m learning to grow so that I can do what I love and follow my heart. I’m putting it out in the universe. I love health and food. My desire in my heart is to have my own little cafe. One that focuses on health and wellness through food and love. It is a goal that I hope to one day bring to life. In the meantime, I’m going to continue to grow in my journey to find joy in the everyday.

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Just Start

I was listening to a podcast. I’m sure you’ve heard of it. It’s called the Rise Podcast by Rachel Hollis. She’s a top motivational speaker, New York Times bestseller, and has one of the top podcasts. One of the episodes really hit me hard. It was all about procrastinating and I am the queen of it. I realized that the reason I don’t try things is honestly, fear of failure. I make all the excuses in the book. I was trying to think of why I’m so afraid of failure. And to be honest I think it all started when I was young, when most issues and fears begin. I can’t pinpoint a specific incident, but more like a bunch of incidents that have snowballed into me not doing things because I’m scared. Scared of what other people think, due to the fact I was made fun of and bullied for things like my looks. Now that I have kids of my own, I don’t want them to grow up to be scared of failure and the best way to do that is for me to model it. After listening to my girl Rachel, I decided I’m not letting fear or anything else hold me back. My dream is not to work in a corporate job anymore. I’ve been doing it for too long and feel like it is draining my creativity and my happiness levels. I work in sales support and have done so for over 10 years. What I do like about it is helping people. I have a passion to help others but I want to start helping others find their joy, whether it’s through health, fitness, motherhood, meditation, humor, or inspiration. But first I have to work on finding mine. It is a journey. A journey to find joy. In all the things…everyday. If I learned one thing from Rachel Hollis, it is just to start. So here’s me starting something new without fear of failure, because I will not fear the unknown any longer. I don’t know where this journey to find joy will bring me but I know it will bring me to discovering new things, trying my hardest to live a joyful life, and hopefully meeting a lot of new people along the way!

Any one else starting a new journey?